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  • Public Sex

    Confession: I love spontaneous public sex.

    To be clear, I have granted myself permission to enjoy random sex play with strangers when the opportunities arise. For the most part, this involves exhibition and mutual masturbation in men’s rooms, saunas and public showers. I find it specifically exciting, energizing and satisfying and I’ve consciously abandoned guilt for enjoying this.

    Sometimes, I do more than show off and stroke cock with strangers. Sometimes–when situations and individuals involved warrant it–I will give or receive head. This all leaves me with…

    Conflict: I don’t want to encourage anyone to do anything dangerous and there is a lot of danger in public sex. I hesitate to even admit this because I’m an open advocate of mutual sexual respect, that being sex-positive includes accommodating the rights of others to feel comfortable in a sex-free space either public or private. I believe consent is the essential key to a successful and enriching sex life and the man rushing into an unexpected sex scene in a public bathroom when he just needs to take a piss and get to his meeting on time has not given his consent.

    And there’s the little issue of getting caught and labeled a sex offender and living with that public designation for the rest of one’s life. So this isn’t something I indulge in more than rarely, but when I stumble upon it, my first reaction is not an automatic “no.” In many circumstances, I am “yes” waiting to happen.

    And then there’s the risk of picking up an STI from the random du jour to consider…

    Calculated Risk: We all take risks every day. We eat in restaurants, risking food-borne infections. We smoke and drink. We get on a bus or in a car or on a bike. We shake hands with strangers. We calculate consequences against benefits all the time. Sex is one of those things we load up with morality and give more weight than the other risks we take day-in and day-out but really, sexual risks are just more of the same cost/benefit analyses we make every day.

    I’ve accepted the risks of public sex because of the benefits I receive: Sexual satisfaction, intense pleasure, a sense of being part of something bigger, affirmation of my human animal sex drive, the thrill of novelty and the simple admission that some things turn me on more than others and that I can actually have those things.

    My rules for mitigation get a little complicated because I have put myself at risk of STI repeatedly over the years and I never want to be the one giving a dose to a lover, stranger or friend. I’ve covered the HIV issue with daily PrEP, but whenever I go further than jacking off, even if it’s just a momentary taste of delicious glans, I know I’m starting a 4- to 6-week period of penetration-free play as I wait to get an STI test result. Yes, I actually do that. It helps that I genuinely enjoy so much non-penetrative play on the regular.

    So if anyone receives my cock anywhere other than in their hand, you should know it has been given a clear bill of health… and that you’ll be the last risk I take for another month. But make no mistake, I’m no angel. I’m just mitigating risk and working with the risks inherent in a lifestyle that includes sexual pleasure and novelty.

  • Love Yourself Beautiful scene from Luc Besson’s movie Angel A VIDEO

    Love Yourself Beautiful scene from Luc Besson’s movie Angel A VIDEO

    This

    This is what drives me to write, to share myself, to invite men to experience pleasure with me… with each other and with themselves. I want all of us to really get this. I want you to get it.

    I’ll get back to the beauty and power of sex tomorrow. Tonight… this.

  • Absolutely beautiful video of mutual erect male penis pleasure. Fantastic display of men experiencing and enjoying their masculine phallic and sperm energy together. Your commentary is perfect too. Looking through your archive it doesn’t look like you upload much stuff though…. but with quality like what I see in that masturbation video you DEFINITELY should upload much much more.

    (I assume the question is in response to this post.)

    Thank you! I deliberately keep my blog focused on the written word rather than images, but I will certainly be posting more clips in the future.

  • How I Learned There’s More Than One Way To Have Gay Sex

    How I Learned There’s More Than One Way To Have Gay Sex

    (Click on the title of this article to read the whole thing on Buzzfeed.)

    I am very pleased to have been interviewed for this article. However we get there, losing our stupid prejudice against anything other than full-on buttsex only makes our sex lives richer, deeper and more real. Sex is so much more than one thing. I encourage followers to read this article to the end.

    My brief contributions are about two-thirds of the way through, but they’re a small part of the overall point. Your comments are welcome right here in Disqus.

  • There is no such thing as “The Ideal Man.” There is only my ideal man… for the moment. Ideals change and every individual has their own.

    This is Kyle, my ideal man of the moment.

    Intrigued by Kyle and want to know more? Follow him on Instagram. Personal Page Here and his art page Dirty Talk Collection Here.

    All photos by Mike Enders of San Francisco for his “Lucky Green Chair” Series. Support his work on Patreon.

  • Is there a Dallas jack club?

    The Number One Question I receive by far is this: “Is there a JO club near me?”

    There are three responses I almost always give:

    1. I don’t know.
    2. Check the NY Jacks Web site’s Links page.
    3. Join and search Bateworld for your city’s name or the name of a larger nearby town.

    There are men all over the country who are actively looking for bate buddies. There are not a lot of JO clubs, but you can probably find somebody if you keep looking. Just be as safe as you can be.

  • I have what Dan Savage calls a “death grip” when I masturbate. I don’t use lube. It works great for solo action but not mutual masturbation or sexual encounters. Do you have any suggestions on modifying long-engrained practices?

    A lot of people have asked this question since Dan popularized the phrase. Even though he has walked it back and now reminds everyone to not call it that, he still gives the same advice and I agree: You have to deny your dick the familiar stimulus until your brain forges new neural pathways.

    That means you may have to go without orgasms for a while, but stick with it. Do anything but what you’re addicted to and your need to cum will eventually find a way. It is very, very hard to break some habits. Just keep trying until you make it.

    Here are some relevant resources for you. Both should be helpful:

    Sept 22 2015 Savage Lovecast: Episode 465
    August 28, 2015 Mike Pearl article on VICE

  • Four Minutes of Six Jacks in Slow-Motion

    This is something that you would experience in any jack-off club: Sensual, intense, penis pleasure with authentic men of all kinds generously sharing touch.

    It amazes me that so many men won’t even consider sex without penetration. If you are one of them, you are missing out on literally thousands of wonderful, intense, cum-inducing experiences with as many men as you can imagine.

    I have tons of this stuff and I want you to see it and understand that what you see is something you can actually be part of. Yes, you can watch it and masturbate solo… but my message is this: Real men are masturbating together. In real time. In physical contact with each other. If you want to step beyond fantasy, you can and you should. My JO club is Rain City Jacks and operates in Seattle, Washington. There are others. Find one and support them.

    (Source: http://raincityjacks.org/)

  • happyoldmasturbator:

    The Myth of Sex and Masturbation Addiction

    I have written before and will continue to write about the myth of sex and masturbation “addiction,” even though most Tumblr users don’t do much reading; they’re just here for the images.

    There are a number of you out there who claim to be “masturbation addicts.”  I don’t think you know what “addiction” means.  First of all, sex addiction (and masturbation is most definitely sex; it’s sex with yourself), has been rejected by the American Psychiatric Association, time and again, because there is no scientific evidence that it exists.  Sex is not like alcohol or drugs, no matter how much anyone thinks it is. Sex has no tolerance or withdrawal effects. No one has ever died from being unable to have sex, nor has anyone ever overdosed from sex.

    Alcohol and drugs create changes in the chemistry of the brain, while during sex, the brain is working the way it is supposed to.

    Does sexual desire affect our judgment? Yes, it does, but this is normal. Human sexuality is designed to make us want to have sex, and everyone has had the experience of wanting sex to the point that they get a little stupid. But it is a far stretch to reach from this mild effect of arousal to suggesting that sex takes away someone’s self-control.

    See:  David J. Ley’s “The Myth of Sex Addiction” (Rowman & Littlefield).

    Now, as regards these men who claim that they masturbate 14 hours a day or more….do they have jobs?  Or are they independently wealthy and so, can afford to do nothing but surf Tumblr and masturbate all day?  Look, unless you’ve been fired from a job for absenteeism (because you couldn’t resist masturbating) or unless you’ve been evicted for not paying your rent or mortgage (because you spent it all on porn or Albolene), you’re not addicted, Pee-Wee…..you’re just an enthusiast.

    Now, I’m definitely more than an enthusiast when it comes to music; I’m an accomplished performer/writer.  But still, I can’t imagine doing it for 14 hours at a shot.  I’m an enthusiast when it comes to gardening, but Jesus Christ, not for 14 hours at a time.  And I definitely love to masturbate, but I do have other things (and other people) in my life to attend to.

    Is there such a thing as too much masturbation?  Maybe.  If your penis starts getting chaffed from not using enough lube, or if your arm starts getting cramped from too much stroking.  But as regards the sensations themselves, is there such a thing as too much?  Well, I think that people should be passionate about activities they love.  That said, I love to eat.  I love prime rib.  But I can’t fucking imagine eating it every day.  By a week’s time, I’d probably be sick of it.  There is something to be said for anticipation, and you can’t achieve/experience anticipation without some abstinence.  Don’t get me wrong, now.  I’m not one of these conservative, right-wing religious nuts. I love my cock.  I love to Edge and cum.  But I don’t need to do it more than a couple hours a day.  Now and then, if I’m in the mood and the porn browsing is good, I might go a little longer, but as I said, I do have other things in my life.

    So, if you’re reading this and you’re one of the people who claims to masturbate “all day” and considers themselves an addict, I would say this:

    At least I hope you’re telling the truth and not bullshitting, because there’s more than enough misinformation and crap on the internet – especially regarding sex/masturbation.  And that’s just the kind of stuff that the conservative, religious wingnuts jump on.  They’re looking for every bit of junk evidence that enjoying sex for it’s own sake is bad.

    And I would also suggest:  try taking a day off now and then.  Try – no pun intended – shooting for quality rather than quantity.  Sometimes, less IS more.

    I don’t reblog much, but I appreciate enough of this message to try and help spread it.

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