Where the hell have I been? Well, among other things, I’ve spent the last couple of months of refocusing and redirecting my efforts on the book. The Book… I’m calling it, “the book project.” It is most definitely a project and a half. I was really excited at the prospect of writing the whole thing…

As in “poking my nose into my own blog for a change so you won’t think I died or anything… ” It’s an unfortunate tendency many bloggers have of starting things and then fading away. I don’t want to be that blogger. I love writing this thing… But there are times I get busier than…

Thank you so much for sharing your experience here. I apologize if this is about a hundred times more response than you wanted… but here goes! I live in an unusually progressive (read, “non-conservative”) city. Being gay here is about as close to a non-issue as anywhere I’ve ever lived, and I love it, but it’s…

This is not a lengthy post. Sorry, my faithful minions…  I just want to mention that movement on my book seems to have kicked into gear. The right people are falling into place, the right circumstances are appearing at the right times… It’s starting to look like this thing is really happening, and lots of…

I see three specific meanings that we generally apply to the word, “masturbation.” One contextual, one an objective action, and one euphemism. And of course there are many more. This is, after all, the most common sex our species practices, so there are myriad applications and twists on the word, but I have a theory…

Gooning is one of those things that many men don’t understand, and it is a very, very easy thing to make fun of. Gooning is, in fact, objectively ridiculous. It is also one of the things that holds a key to a freer expression of sexuality through mindful masturbation. It doesn’t really surprise me that…

Wow, I’ve been remiss… A few days of lost blogging turns into weeks. So far, it hasn’t become a month off but I’m getting dangerously close. It’s a new year and I’m thinking this needs to be the year of The Project. I’ve been committing myself judiciously to a number of activities (not the least…

It makes sense to me that any particular guy would want to make sure that the person he might have sex with is the “type” of person he will find attractive. I don’t consider that a prejudice. It’s about understanding your own turn-ons and turn-offs and drawing upon experience to choose what works… I appreciate…

(This is an only slightly edited question I received from a prospective Jacks member, along with my only slightly edited response) The underwear event is definitely up my boyfriend’s alley and could be the event that lets me convince him to try this out 🙂 However, as I’m sure has come up for many others,…

I get a lot queries about the club every week, often several times a day. There are generally just a handful of common questions that are asked in some form over and over, and that’s not so surprising. The club’s scope is pretty specific. We are a group of men who gather to jack off…