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How did you get Twitter on your Blog?
I log in to tumblr and go to my blog. In the top right corner, I click “Customize” and on the customize page, I look under the “Appearance” menu and scroll down to select “Show Twitter Headline” and “Show Twitter Sidebar.” It may not be an available option in all themes.
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Mythology
I’m having a hell of a time getting the real story of how the New York Jacks formed—their origin story; their Peter Parker gets bitten by a radioactive spider moment—and I will need that piece of modern mythology for my book. I will get that story, or whatever version exists in the folk memory of…
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Define Masturbation
Second time for this question (because the first time was so surprising)… Without looking it up, in your own words, define and/or describe the meaning of the word “masturbation” to you. Please put your comment in the comments section below. Check back frequently for your fellow men’s thoughts. HINT: Write your response in a simple text…
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Conversations
I’ve been chatting with masturbators. Yes, I’ve also been masturbating with masturbators but that’s nothing new. I’ve been having good, focused conversations with men who go to jack-off clubs about jacking off with other men. There are important differences. Talking and having sex with someone are very different experiences. I can hear a collective “Duh!”…
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First, I have to congratulate you for founding the Rain City Jacks. I belonged to a jack off group until it closed for a lack of venue. In my opinion jacking off with a large group of men is fantastic! For me it is a total bonding and connection and it really makes me feel like I’m part of the Male gender. In your latest post you said “I am picking up a desire to be get friendlier, to share more, to ask questions of each other, to bring more of who we are outside the playspace into the playspace.” Do any of the men who attend RCJ socialize outside of the jack-off gatherings? A handful of guys from the group I belonged to would meet occassionally for lunch or coffee. It seemed to make what you are suggesting much easier. Do you encourage the guys to mix socially immediately before a group session begins? Or do you prefer everyone keep it completely and totally anonymous?
Thanks for the suggestions! We do not actively encourage members to connect socially outside of events. For many, anonymity is a major issue but that’s not true for everyone. I know that some of the members do connect socially after having met at the club, either after events or on their own time. I don’t…
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Talk and Action
Sometime in the early-aughts, I was at a Seattle Pride post-parade rally and noticed one particular chant getting a lot of play out there in Volunteer Park. “Safe Sex is Great Sex!!!” As they have been for years now, condoms were as plentiful as pollen at the Pride festivities. Indeed, condoms are a common presence…
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So, earlier today I was on Bate World and I came across this pic with two men featured on it. One guy was shaved and one guy had a full on natural bush. I personally thought both were hot in their own way. But what turned me off – well, lets say pissed me off – was the caption on the photo that said “real men have pubs” and then there was a red thumbs down on the hairless guy and a green thumbs up on the natural guy. I am sure this has been discussed over and over, but why does this have to be so mean? Why can’t it be about the beauty of the male form, so with hair and other’s without? Full disclosure – I prefer guys that do not shave down, but I sure as hell would not pass up a full on wank with a guy simply because he shaves his pubs off. Am I alone here? As a masturbater isn’t it about the penis and the pleasure it gives us, not the hair or lack there of that surrounds it?
You know, Adam, I have two biases on this subject: My personal taste and my position as leader of a diverse sexual community. I think both positions agree with you. The short answer is no, it doesn’t have to be so mean, but the individual who posted that pic has some energy about what specifically…
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Fantasy
Fantasy I like this piece at salon.com about fantasy. I didn’t say I agree with all of it, but it’s a great piece to start a conversation about what our brains do with sex… And I especially disagree that National Masturbation Month is passé. I think the writer must live on one of those splendid…
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Paul…Garland here. I think I’ll start you off with a heavy hitter. Give you some feed for your brain and heart. 😉 Viewing mutual masturbation as a form of sex between men and connection as a typical way we initialize the sexual game, what role do you think connection plays in our search for mutual masturbatory satisfaction? And what do you feel, in your experience, most men are seeking: sex without connection or sex as a means to a deeper connection with another human being who enjoys the same activity? Is sex without connection shallow and in your opinion (I know I’m sorta asking for a personal judgement call in light of your views and experiences) do you find that connection can be a dangerous territory when all we’re doing is stroking each others cocks?
The word, “connection” is a really subjective term with lots of meanings. What I mean by connection may differ from what you mean, and what we each mean now may change in different circumstances. It reminds me a little of the definition of “sobriety” in recovery circles. For some, abstinence alone equals sobriety. For others…
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little help?
I’m really good with a starting point. Not so good with a blank page… I frequently think, “I really should write something in my blog today,” and then the moment passes and the blog continues to age and fade… You can help. Please help. It’s very simple… Click the link near the top of the…