I masturbate in the steam room and sauna with pretty much anyone who wants to join in. I’ve been doing that for many, many years. BUT… I also am sensitive to the rights of guys who just want to enjoy the heat without the distraction of boners. I am pretty brazen about masturbation. I don’t…

Yes. You may say that. I’m at the gym every morning, and I’m really struck by the different ways different men deal with being naked in the locker room. It speaks volumes about how they feel about their bodies, their sexuality, their penises… I have enormous admiration and respect for the straight guys who feel…

I’m deeply grateful to include regular social sex play in my life. I’m frequently amazed to live in a time and place where such a thing is possible… I don’t take it for granted.

[You can file this one under “back to basics” or “duh.”] I am a bator. I am not a “model” bator. I am not a “pure” bator or an “addicted” or “compulsive” bator, but I am very much a bator. Here’s what I mean: I love to masturbate and I embrace masturbation as an important…

I’m wondering if anybody genuinely feels like being at a JO club is not strange at all. I’ve been to hundreds of JO parties myself, and I don’t just play, I run the events, think about them, write about them… I am deep in the experience but there is always an awareness that this is…

By far, the one question I get more than any other is some variation of, “Is there a JO club in ____?” Clearly, there are a hell of a lot of guys who just want what JO clubs have to offer and when they find out about us their one response is, “Hell yes! Where do…

Yep! Class of 1979, U of I in Champaign-Urbana. I guess that makes me an “Illini” or Illinus or Illinum… My degree was pretty much worthless, so I don’t bestow much credence on that fact, but yes. I’m from there. I have an applied fine arts degree in music (vocal performance). I also attended two…

I feel as if I’ve just woken up from a long hibernation. I’m not sure what sparked it, but I’m hornier now than I’ve felt in a very long time. I’ve been healthy, I’ve been masturbating regularly, I’ve been playing with others as much as ever, I’ve been sleeping well… so maybe it’s just the…

To all my followers and anyone curious about where the hell I’ve been, I just want to check in to let you know I am just over here, in the weeds. I’m taking a deliberate hiatus while the whirlwind of projects blows through. Look for me to emerge at the end of May. In the…

It’s not really a secret, but there’s a certain tactic I employ at Jacks events that I learned while waiting tables for 20 years. It’s the “safe touch” tactic. It works like this. When a good waiter is experiencing a warm exchange with a table, when he likes the people and can tell they like…